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Love and Friendship

Friendship is an aspect of life that’s not controlled by its beholders. Ideal friendships, well they are the things of past now. Many a times we have seen our parents or their parents talking about their old great friends and how amusingly they tell us about their bonding, the moments they spent together and we see a ‘priceless’ twinkle in their eyes…..that’s something which is missing from modern friendships. There are terms & phrases like ‘yaar tu to apna bhai hai’, ‘yaar tu to ghar ka aadmi hai’ which even today invoke something very beautiful inside our hearts but we all know that the feelings underneath them are ‘hollow’, they are just mere words, ‘emotionless’ and ‘impassive’.
Well who am I to comment on such an indefinable ‘qualitative’ perspective? I’m one of you, those wretched creatures that are still in need of true, great friendships. Well I certainly can’t say that I haven’t got friends. I’ve got friends, plenty of them in fact, and some of them are real great. I still feel a lacking though; why I don’t know. May be it’s just that I expect too much from my friends and in part, that’s reality. I’m certainly one of those guys that are very passionate about the people they love and care about and when these guys don’t show the same level of compliance, my soul goes out for a tossing. I feel bereaved, I feel shallow, I feel burnt-out, I feel numb.
Can love and friendship go hand-in-hand? That’s a very debatable question and can sell out some of the world’s biggest arenas featuring the most famous experts on this subject matter. I too am in dilemma over this topic. A simple reason for being so bemused is that once again you find yourself at the hand of destiny and at the mercy of your heart. One has to draw a very fine line between these two great beautiful things and if you are looking for securing any one of them, then be real patient. Friendship, I think, cares for expectations. As the old saying goes, ‘a friend in need is a friend indeed’, friendship does have a selfish premise underneath it, though we try to honor and spiritualize it very vehemently. Friendship, as they say once again, is that one relationship that God lets a human being to decide onto, i.e. friendship shuns a divine intervention but what about love? Well it’s certainly a divine entity and one that shuns expectations. True love seeks sacrifice for authenticating itself. It’s not always the meeting of two souls which are truly, deeply and madly in awe of each other but it’s a feeling of ‘letting go’, giving one some space to think about one’s own well being as well as surroundings. Expectations die mid-way in Love. True love will come back to you even if that’s confronted with million other better options and you don’t need to regret a single-bit about it if it doesn’t come back for simply it wasn’t that good.
What about the one-sided affairs then? Well they are the most painful ones and certainly the most depressing. But if you have loved someone tremendously and that person has someone else in his or her mind, just divert your mind to the definition of true-love mentioned above. Let him/her go, embrace him/her with that noble intervention and certainly you could pride yourself on the fact that you had loved someone once so profusely. For the friendship though, let the God decide upon it (even if He doesn’t want to).

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